My Dad passed away on Friday, so I need some time to grieve. Not sure when I will blog again, we’ll see.
But today, I will share good advice given me by a number of friends this week, on grieving a death:
- Give yourself time, as much time as you need.
- Know that grief takes energy. Rest if needed (especially with chronic illness).
- Sometimes grief can cause physical pain.
- Cry when you need to.
- Realize people grieve differently, even in the same family, and that’s okay.
- Know the pain will get less.
- Drink lots of water (with a dab of juice for electrolytes). When my friend mentioned water, I suddenly realize my mind was so filled with grief, I was forgetting good things for my body, including drinking water.
- It is okay to feel strongly two opposing emotions at the same time.
- The feeling that you or your life will never be normal again–it will pass.
- Your relationship with the one who passed away is NOT defined by the last week, last day, last hour, last conversation. It is the whole relationship you had with them.
- Go to God for comfort.
What is your advice for grief?
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